It’s a catastrophe!
By Michael Bungay Stanier
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Unstuck & Get Going Today’s common understanding of “catastrophe” — a
sudden disaster — is not the word’s original meaning. It first
meant “a reversal of what is expected”, something altogether more
broad, more benign and perhaps more useful (you’ll see the connection
with words like “apostrophe”, whose etymology means in effect a “turning
point”). The extension of meaning to "sudden disaster" was
first recorded in 1748, some 200 years after the first use of the word.
The fine art of catastrophizing
Many of us unknowingly invite catastrophe (the modern definition) into our
lives on a regular basis. Not that anything bad happens. It’s just that
we tend to look at a challenge that is facing us, and then imagine the very
worst thing that could happen. This is what it sounds like for me:
I could never challenge my boss…
… because she might get angry with me…
… and then she’d put me on nothing but bad projects…
… and then I’d fail at those projects…
… and then I’d lose my job…
… and then I wouldn’t be able to find another job…
… and then my wife would leave me…
… and then I’d have to sell the house…
… and then I’d start drinking…
… and then I’d end up on the streets, homeless…
… and then I’d be dead before I’m 40…
… and no one will even notice.
It’s almost humorous when you see it written down like this. But for
many of us this style of thinking is all too familiar. It paralyzes us. It
keeps us small. It keeps us playing safe and not taking chances to do something
differently, to explore something new.
This type of thinking has been labeled“catastrophizing”, and
is symptomatic of a way of seeing the world that sees the bad that happens
to you as part of a pervasive and ubiquitous tide of pain and evil that happens
to everyone, everywhere. The term was made popular by Dr Albert Ellis and Rational
Emotive Behavior Therapy (RBET), a form of cognitive therapy. (Cognitive therapists
believe that, basically, to get better you need to start thinking differently.
And the bottom line in explaining RBET is “the world’s not fair.
Deal with it”).
Bad for your health
Catastrophizing is more than just a limiting way of thinking. It’s actually
bad for your health. A study in 1998 by psychologist Dr Christopher Peterson
concluded that the tendency to catastrophize was linked to an increased risk
of dying before the age of 65. "Males with a tendency to catastrophize
were at the highest risk for early death," Prof. Christopher Peterson
says. "They were 25 percent more likely to die by age 65 than men with
other [ways of viewing the world], and they were at especially high risk for
deaths by accident or violence."
Breaking the cycle
Here are two ways to break the cycle.
Write down the whole catastrophizing process — like the example I’ve
written out above. Then, for each of the different steps, estimate the odds
of that actually happening to you. For instance, in the example above, “she
might be angry with me” might have a 20% (0.20) chance of happening, “she’d
put me on nothing but bad projects” might have a 3% (0.03) chance of
happening, and so on. You can then estimate the actual chance of the final
catastrophe happening by multiplying together the various percentages (for
instance, 0.20 x 0.03 x …).
The second technique is even faster, and its one I’ve borrowed from
Benjamin Zander and his book The Art of Possibility. Stand up, throw your arms
in the air, and declare out loud “How fascinating!”. This is effective
because it shifts your physical state, it points to how seriously you’re
taking everything (and suggests you lighten up!), and it frames the situation
as a learning moment
And in the end, remember Mark Twain’s comment: “I’ve had
a lot of problems in my life and most of them never happened.”
Resources for dealing with catastrophe
Benjamin Zander & Rosamund Stone Zander, The Art of Possibility
Stephen Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People — particularly
Habit 1 (Circle of Concern, Circle of Influence)
Kate Byron & Stephen Mitchell, Loving What Is: Four Questions That
Can Change Your Life
Richard Carson, Taming Your Gremlin
Albert Ellis, How to Control Your Anxiety Before It Controls You © Michael Bungay Stanier
About the Author
Michael Bungay Stanier is author of the best selling coaching
tool, Get Unstuck & Get
Going …on the stuff that matters available at www.getunstuckandgetgoing.com.
A certified coach and Rhodes Scholar, he works with coaches, trainers, teams
and organizations to help them get unstuck and get going on the stuff that
matters. Sign up for Michael’s free Outside the Lines ezine at www.BoxOfCrayons.biz.
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